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“Over the course of the millennia, all these ancestors in your tree, generation upon generation, have come down to this moment in time—to give birth to you. There has never been, nor will ever be, another like you. You have been given a tremendous responsibility. You carry the hopes and dreams of all those who have gone before. Hopes and dreams for a better world. What will you do with your time on this Earth? How will you contribute to the ongoing story of humankind?” ~ Laurence Overmire

How Well Do We Know Those We Love

Posted by TonyaKeittKalule

Today I woke up early because I was getting my hair braided. Actually we started yesterday and was finishing this morning. I always start my day with making a pot of coffee and starting up my computer. While checking my emails I came across one that changed a great deal of things for me. This email was from a woman just a year younger than I am explaining to me that my step grandfather was her father, who had walked out on his wife and six children after ten years of marriage. He moved into my grandmother's boarding house and later he and my grandmother started to date and he became her third husband. We often don't recognize her second husband because they were only married a little less than a year. I don't even remember him. Her third husband was very special to me. I was in elementary school when they got married. I was closer to him than I was to my dad's father, who passed away in 1968.
This news was a shock to me and has been on my mind all day.

James Benjamin Hicks
This shows me how little we know a person. How come he never talked about his past? How often did he think about his family? Did he have ways of knowing how they were doing? There are so many questions that I have. Some I will get answers to and some I will not. From where I sat, he was a good man. He was kind, he was loving, he was protective, and he was definitely a no-nonsense kind of person.

No this information does not change how I feel about him, because I loved him dearly, but it definitely leaves a great deal of questions.

I have heard many stories of men walking away from their families during those times. The old joke is that he went to the store to get some bread, because that was the excuse of many.


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